Invitation Etiquette
You've found the perfect invitation, now what should it say?
If you'll be tying the knot in a less traditional setting, the wording of the wedding invitation can be as creative as you want -think meaningful quotations, song lyrics or any other phrases that will give your guests a sense of the style of your wedding.
Then, the burning questions are: What if you're holding a church wedding but your parents are divorced? How do you handle stepparents?
Before you deal to the hard stuff, let’s start with the basics.
- Your name and the name of your fiancé including surnames
- The date, location and time of the wedding
- Reply information
Your parents are divorced but are still hosting the wedding together The proper way to word an invitation when the Bride's parents are divorced is to list the names of the Bride's parents at the top of the invitation. The Bride's Mother's name should be on the first line and her Father's name should go on the line beneath it, do not separate the lines with “and”.
Your divorced parents have remarried Traditionally, only the parents’ names appear on the invitation but if you would like to include your step-parents, it's perfectly acceptable to list them as well. Place your Mother’s name (and her husband if she's remarried) first and include your last name. Then do the same with your Father’s (and his wife’s if he’s remarried), on the second line.
Mr. and Mrs. Robert Angus Williams Mr. and Mrs. Gordon Albert Barrie request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter, Katrina Melody Barrie
One or both of your parents are deceased If one parent is still living, that parent should issue the invitation. If your Mother has not remarried, you should place 'Mrs.' before her name. If neither of your parents is alive, the invitation may be issued by other relatives such as your grandparents or of course, you and your fiancé.
You have been married before If your parents are issuing the invitation, use your married name:
Mr. and Mrs. Gordon Albert Barrie request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Katrina Melody Barrie
Or, if you and your fiancé issue the invitation yourselves:
Katrina Melody Barrie and Robert Percy Hughes request the honour of your presence at their marriage
You're paying for your own wedding If you have a good relationship with your parents, honour them by placing their names at the top of the invitation, especially if this is a first marriage and you are holding at traditional ceremony.
You don't want guests to bring children Not everyone knows that the only people invited to an event are the ones to whom the invitation is addressed. If you have friends who feel their little ones are always included, a quick phone-call to tell them that your reception isn't set up for children, will get your point across and is nicer that printing 'no children please' on the invitation or response card.
You don’t know whether to invite friend’s new partners or allow single guests to bring dates This one is a difficult dilemma and should be approached on a case by case basis.
Tips • Handwritten invitations add personal flair but unless you have ample time and beautiful penmanship, hire a calligrapher • Choose a motif to feature throughout your stationery such as your initial or favourite song lyric • Showcase your creativity by adding embellishments like ribbon or dried flowers • Wording of the stationery should match the feel of you day. Choose formal wording or a traditional occasion or casual phrasing for a relaxed affair.
Formal Wedding
Invitation Wording Formal Wedding • Invitations should be written in the third person • Dates and times should be spelt out i.e. Eleventh of February at Three O’clock • If it’s a church ceremony, ‘the honour of your presence’ are used while a non religious ceremony tends to use ‘the pleasure of your company’ • The Bride’s name should appear before the Groom’s • The time and date should be written first, followed by the venue
Here are a couple of examples to inspire you:
Mr. and Mrs. Richard Smith
and
Mr. and Mrs. Michael Jackson
Request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their children
Maria Shannon Smith And Mr. Samuel Luther Jackson
On Saturday, the nineteenth of January Two thousand and thirteen
At three o’clock in the afternoon
St Patrick’s Cathedral
43 Wyndham Street, Auckland
Maria and Sam
Together with their parents
Warmly invite
xxxxx
To share in the celebration of their marriage
On Saturday, the nineteenth of January Two thousand and thirteen
At three o’clock in the afternoon
St Patrick’s Cathedral
43 Wyndham Street, Auckland
Informal Wedding
Invitations are usually written in the first person and titles and surnames, omitted.
Here are a couple of informal examples:
Together with our families
Maria Smith
And
Sam Jackson
Would like to invite
xxxxxx
To our wedding
On Saturday, 19 January 2013 at 3pm
St Patrick’s Cathedral
43 Wyndham Street, Auckland
Maria and Sam
Are tying the knot
We would love you to come
and join the celebration
On On Saturday, 19 January 2013 at 3pm
St Patrick’s Cathedral
43 Wyndham Street, Auckland
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